Balance. It's a nice word but the reality is hard to pin down. It may not even put us on the right track in our 21st century quest for fulfillment and happiness. In this article we will talk about the integration of work and family life, beginning not with the workplace and the employer's role in sorting things out, but with the person and her priorities.
It’s weird that I’m posting this haha. But here goes, whooza!
I have no doubt that there are many people out there who are searching for ways of improving their overall quality of life. We have no divine right to be happy of course but on the other hand we should not just sit back and accept second best. I am the type of person who basically just wants to be happy, I have no desire to become mega rich, but what I am looking for, and at the moment have achieved, is an inner peace.
When looking into ways and ideas of improving my life, I ask myself a series of questions:
What areas of my life am I not happy with?
What can I do to improve my life?
Am I happy with my current role of employment?
Am I happy with my current financial situation?
Am I happy in the relationship that I have with my girlfriend?
How could my life become easier and more stress-free?
These are just a few of many questions that I ask myself and I have listed them purely as an example.
In the past, I would always become quite stressed at around the start of the year. This was because I have a son who has a birthday in November, then of course in December is the celebration of Christmas. These two events would leave me with a bit of a financial headache as I have to admit that I tend to spoil my family and go a bit overboard on the spending.
I did not want to reduce the amount that I spent on their presents or on the social aspect of Christmas or my son’s birthday and instead started to look for a solution to this financial stress which as previously stated would occur in January.
What I eventually decided that I would do, which now seems just like common sense, was to save as much as I could every month. I would have a certain figure in mind that I wanted to save, as I was aware that I needed to live and have some fun throughout the year as well. By the time November came around on the next year, I had rather a nice amount of money in the bank, which basically made both events even more enjoyable than previous years. This was because I had an inner peace of mind. When January came around I was fine as I had no debts or financial worries. This form of saving is something that I now do every year.
With each and every question I ask myself, I always attempt to find a solution similar to the way I did in the above example. If my husband is annoying me for whatever reason I try and talk to him. I tell him what the issues are and also ask if there is anything that I am doing that annoys him. This is done in a very light hearted manner, so as to not cause more damage etc.
I have now reached a stage of my life where I am quite content with what I have. I am able to sleep soundly at night and am very much looking forward to the future. I have achieved an inner peace and now just have to work hard to make it stay that way. Life at times is a battle and the negative part of my brain tries hard to ruin me. I am determined to stay strong and focused to ensure that I ignore this negative voice and that I continue to listen to the positive side of my brain.
If you are one of these people who are not happy or content with your life at the moment, I am sure that by asking yourself a series of questions and then trying to find your own solutions, that you will also be able to find your own inner peace.